Breakups are difficult, but divorce is a whole new ball game. Ending a legal marriage is more than breaking up with someone, it’s ending a life that was built around that relationship. Finances, children, assets, and legal documentation are involved, making the process complicated and long. While it may seem impossible to not let your emotions get the best of you, here are five ways to help you stay positive through a divorce:
Focus on stability
While this one aspect of your life is up in the air, stay grounded by focusing on the things that are remaining the same—your family, friends, job, children, and anything else you hold near and dear.
The couch and a bowl of ice cream might sound like the best way to cope with a divorce, but that won’t make you feel better in the long run. Start an exercise regime or pump up your current one. You are the only one who has control over your physical health, so if it seems like everything else in your life is falling apart at this time, stay in control of your wellness and you’ll maintain confidence and perseverance.
Address your emotions
Accept your feelings and don’t let them bottle up. Writing down your thoughts in a private journal is a great way to get them out of your mind. Don’t be ashamed of your emotions or pretend like they aren’t there; let feelings come and go naturally rather than leaving them pent up inside.
If friends and family are not enough emotional support during this time, professional help can be critical. Unbiased third parties, such as a divorce coach, therapist, or financial expert, can help you deal with your emotions while understanding the issues at hand.
Divorce mediation is an efficient, empowering alternative to litigation. The process of mediation provides both parties with a safe space to discuss their perspectives and reach mutual agreements, giving each person more control over the decisions that will affect their future. Mediation can greatly reduce the stress and of court proceedings.